As you go through life, you’ll likely encounter situations that result in your relationships with others being broken. Whether those relationships are with friends, co-workers or family members, the negative repercussions of the situation has caused a rift between you and left a gap in your life.
There’s always that feeling of being incomplete when you’re at odds with someone you were once close to. And running into them continues to be very uncomfortable.
What can you do to mend this rift and set things right again?
Be honest about the part you played. Sometimes, mending a relationship is harder than it needs to be because you just haven’t come to terms with the part you played to break it in the first place. It’s really important to take an honest look inward and take responsibility for your own contribution for what happened.
Be willing to forgive. At the end of your assessment, you may realize that the other person also did or said hurtful things. And while they may not have apologized thus far, it’s important that you display the willingness to forgive them – even if that word "sorry" never comes out!
Open channels of communication in stages. If the relationship means a lot to you, a good idea would be to try and open the channels of communication in several stages. Avoid trying to be "bosom buddies" overnight. Take it one step at a time to thaw the ice instead of chiseling away and trying to break it!
Suggest counseling. Try not to get paranoid about the word "counseling"! It doesn’t have to mean sitting in with a professional and having it out. It could simply involve getting to the root of the issue to find a solution that’s acceptable to both of you.
It would be wise not to expect that all relationships can be mended in the same amount of time. However, it’s very likely that they can all be mended if the same activities previously discussed are part of the equation.
Remember, the more openness and honesty you display, the easier it will be to get a positive outcome.
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